Pre-Holiday House Cleaning

I find that some things have gone unreported. Among them are these moments:

We attended the XXXX birthday edition of His Erudition, and if you are not reading his singularly reformated blog you are missing some fine writing and thinking. His approach sets him apart from others who write first and think second, if at all.

A guest who I am assuming will want to remain headless.

Chris, the BaadLamb, JMG and ELeven:


Earlier that day, I helped the talented Baad Lamb install a sign he had designed. I helped by staying out of the way.


That same day, we had a delightful rendezvous with John Shields (Bilerico alumnus) Dave Badash (Bilerico contributor) and Justin Elzie (hot New Yorker).


I don't remember the what or where of this photo. It is from the same day as the above. It may have been from the Xtravaganza House Ball at Irving Plaza. My life is blurred.

Hilton Head, South Carolina

Xtravaganza!

Getting an early start for Hilton Head (highest concentration of heterosexuality in the known universe) for the week. First, here's a few shots of the House of Xtravaganza Ball at New York's irving Plaza,Friday, November 20, 2009. (In the fifth picture are the frosted lucite dress form trophies awarded to the category winners!)






I'll assemble a complete video but you mustn't miss the end of this where he does the "fall back" move from on top of the table! (I don't know much about this dance move, but I am guessing it can be traced to crazed church services in which someone slain by the spirit falls backward onto the floor.) Nobody did this move like this guy did it!

Mixnyc.org because it is bad to take yourself too seriously.

On Friday at midnight we went to a MIX NYC art installation and video show at 125 West 21st Street in NYC. We were invited by Christian and were warmly welcomed by friendly fun-loving faeries. About MIX NYC:

MIX NYC Promotes, produces and preserves experimental media that is rooted in the lives, politics and experiences of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and otherwise queer-identified people. MIX’s work challenges mainstream notions of gender and sexuality while also upending traditional categories of form and content.

I would love to get a copy of the video in which a naked young man staring at a TV with zombie eyes repeatedly droned "I'm an activist. I'm an activist. I'm an activist." There are easily two dozen people to whom I'd like to send that clip.

Here are Christian, The Baad Lamb and Daisy


I met someone named Busy who really wasn't.


The Baad Lamb recumbent.

The Baad Lamb has a history of climbing without hesitance into inviting art installations. This happened two years ago.

And this happened at Exit Art.

Ari Gold's helmet

At last night's Instinct Magazine Leading Men awards bash honoring our Joe, after Ari Gold finished his performance, Dr. Jeff suggested dared me to try on his helmet left onstage.


Ari's manager, probably now regretting the fact that he had just given me his card, ended the arigolden moment.



photos by Dr Jeff.

JoeMyGod honored as one of Instinct Magazine's Leading Men of 2009

And a good time was had by all. Here's the evidence.

I am especially pleased with this:

The dissolution of heterostyle

This is not really news. Anyone with eyes on the sidewalks in New York City would have seen this percolate on the Lower East Side and spill over into Chelsea, Hell's Kitchen and finally the Upper West Side where after a season of being digested and defined in the boardroom of the Gap, it finally appears in their windows.

Why is this important? It makes drag impossible. Old fashioned drag, that is. Once men and women give themselves license to shop in each others aisles, it's all over. There have been incremental baby steps: unisex bathrooms, unisex hair salons, goth make-up and jewelry, nail polish, biker chic, euro-chic, messenger bags, Doc Martins, Converse. And don't tell me you've never walked into a clothing store at the mall and been unable to determine which section was for women and which for men.

I used to try on women's sweaters because their length suited me. It was always a trying experience. Now, it would be a non-event.

Do you have anything at home that was originally designed for the opposite sex? I do. My husband.

As Tim Gunn told me the other night, all fashion is about expressing how you see yourself and want others to see you. All fashion is semiotic.

Tomorrow on Bilerico: "In My Grandmother's Dress"

You'll have to go to Bilerico tomorrow morning to find my answer to this:

Dear Father Tony,

I read what you recently wrote about parenting so maybe you can settle something for me. We are two men raising my five year old son. I want this kid to grow up to be confident, which you correctly noted is so important, and because of that I want him to fit in at school. I don't want him to act loopy or fem or dress "different" when he is young. He will have plenty of time for that when he is older if he wants. Because of this, we are careful to dress masculine at home. We never did drag but I mean that we have just toned down the whole gay way of dressing. We are keeping it "beige" if you know what I mean. I think I'm doing the kid a favor. He can flame out in whatever direction he wants to when he is on his own. My husband says I might be wrong about this.

Triathlete69r

Update: It's up. Get on it.

In which Tim Gunn gives me fashion advice!

In my assigned seat on the runway (front row, thanks GMHC!) I had no idea that the cute and friendly guy next to me was a 2008 Nightlife Coverboy of the Year. His card says he is a VP at the bank holding my savings. I am comforted.

I traded air kisses with America's sweetheart, LOGO's Mike Diamond. And no, he's not engaged. A $6 rhinestone from Canal Street.



Here's a photo album of the event.